In your opinion, what is the essential quality women look for in a man? When I asked my brother about this, he thought for a moment and said, “Someone tall? ”
When I realized how misinformed men might be about what women want, I knew I had to write this article as my brother would say, tall might matter to you if you’re anything like him—the size of your biceps. You can also bring rich people; ideally, all three should be present.
It’s understandable. Throughout history, Hollywood and social media have preached that if you’re not rich (or at least conventionally attractive), you’re not worth dating.
The Hollywood industry and social media have done a terrible job at understanding what women value most in relationships if that’s what you believe.
It’s no secret that some women won’t even consider you unless you’re rich, jacked, and conventionally attractive. What about between us? That kind of woman should be avoided like the plague, if you forgive the expression. Is there a reason why you should avoid those kinds of women? You’re not important to them; they care about themselves and want a trophy, not a relationship with you.
Let’s get back to the point. I could retire in comfort now if I had a dollar for every dating profile I’ve seen where men claim to be tall, muscular and own private islands in the Caribbean.
Nevertheless, most men don’t seem to understand what women want; based on what I’ve seen, when dates do not go well for no apparent reason, that often leads to unnecessary confusion. Women need to talk about what they want in relationships rather than what men think they want. How does it work? How do we measure success? When we meet someone new, what makes us think, “I can see a future with this guy,” instead of “I cannot wait never to see him again?”?
It’s time to get to the point.
Almost 90% of women worldwide ranked kindness as the number one trait they wanted in a partner, according to a study conducted on over 60,000 women.
Yes, that’s correct.
The survey found that almost 90% of women from all backgrounds, nationalities, and walks of life value kindness more than anything else.
How surprised are you? Even if you are, this might surprise you: According to the same study, almost 45% of women prefer men with average or “dad bods” rather than highly muscular men. Women surveyed stated that they prefer partners with very muscular bodies only 2.5% of the time.
What can we conclude from this? The point is this: If you’re looking for a serious relationship, don’t be afraid to get ripped. According to this study, it might work against you if you spend forty hours a day at the gym to attract a partner.
Other women value kindness highly, which is not surprising to me since I am a woman. I’ve dated good-looking guys, but not for their looks – I dated them for who they were on the inside: kind, generous, empathic, etc.
Don’t get me wrong; their looks added a nice touch. It becomes completely irrelevant what someone looks like on the outside when life gets tough. As an undergrad, I didn’t even think about my boyfriend’s chiselled jawline when I couldn’t drag myself to class. His muscles were bulging or not. As far as his Roth IRA was concerned, I didn’t give a damn. Is there anything you don’t know about what I value most? His willingness to drop everything and look after me when I could barely do so. My problems could have been solved if he had been there for me.
His kindness made the difference. I cared about that in the end. Many other people from all over the world cared about it back then, and it matters now.
Thousands of women rank kindness as the essential quality in a guy, so don’t feel bad if you don’t think you’re good-looking or competitive enough.
Here’s what’s going on:
Women like me are tired of dating people who think their looks are enough and are full of themselves. It’s time for us to stop playing games and giving empty promises to people who don’t mean what they say.
Nobody is immune to the fact that looks fade over time. Look at all the old, ridiculously rich Hollywood actors out there if you need a reminder – even the best plastic surgeons and all the money won’t make you look twenty-five at eighty.
Is there anything that can remain the same? The heart of a person. When they are already late, how they treat themselves, you, and the person who cut into their lane. The most important thing is that.
Let me make it simple for you if you’re a guy trying to figure out what goes on inside our heads:
Decent women – the type you should be with – don’t care how many hours you spend at the gym or how much money you have. How come? Women who are self-sufficient adults are the kind you should date. Drinks are not bought for them, or others do not baby them.
It would be helpful if a partner were there for them whenever they needed them – someone, they could be vulnerable with. They need to be loved for their identity and not for what they do, and they should not have to put on a brave face after a tough day. Women want that from decent men. The kind of person you should want to be with will take precedence over everything else, including looks, money, etc.
Having abs or a fortune in the bank is unnecessary for a great partner. Remind yourself of this study if you are a kind, loving person, and keep in mind that many women await your arrival one day. Despite not meeting a compatible partner, do not lower your standards or lose hope.