As a service provider, you will inevitably encounter clients who push your boundaries. It can be frustrating, exhausting, and even dangerous to deal with clients who insist on crossing the line despite your clear communication of boundaries. This article will provide tips on identifying and redirecting boundary-pushing behaviour respectfully and safely.
Identifying Boundary Pushing Behavior
Boundary pushers come in different forms. Some are genuinely clueless and may not know what they are doing. Others are more manipulative and passive-aggressive in their approach. They may use flattery, bribes, or verbal manipulation to get what they want. It is essential to be able to identify these behaviours so that you can redirect them appropriately.
Redirecting Boundary Pushing Behavior
When dealing with a clueless boundary pusher, you must lay down clear guidelines for how you expect to be treated. This will help eliminate any misunderstandings and prevent future boundary-pushing.
For more manipulative boundary pushers, it can be helpful to redirect their behaviour by giving them something else to focus on. For example, if a client asks to try something outside of her comfort zone, suggest an alternative activity, such as taking a walk or giving a massage. If a client wants to cross your boundaries despite clear communication, please speak to them in a firm but the playful tone, as if you were talking to a child. This will help maintain distance and politeness while re-directing their behaviour.
Maintaining Safety and Comfort
It’s important that you prioritize your safety and comfort when dealing with boundary-pushing clients. Do not compromise your boundaries or feelings of safety to please a client. If a client repeatedly crosses your boundaries despite your attempts to redirect their behavior, please be sure to show them the door. It is better to lose a client than to compromise your safety and comfort.
Dealing with boundary pushing clients can be challenging, but with the right strategies, it is possible to redirect their behavior in a respectful and safe way. By identifying and redirecting boundary pushing behaviors, you can maintain a professional and positive relationship with your clients while prioritizing your own safety and comfort. Remember to trust your instincts and communicate clearly with your clients to ensure a positive and mutually respectful experience.